Last month, I briefly discussed the notion of the tension between a forward-looking perspective versus a focus on the present. I would like to add to that with a further reflection on an appreciation of the present moment.
We are perhaps by nature forced to look to the future – to plan for our next move, to think about what will happen soon and what we will do about it, to try to improve.
Evolutionary theory reinforces the notion of constant change: survival requires that we attend to the changing world with a positive disposition to the future. We try to progress.
Additionally, as Jews, we have learned not to take the future for granted and to work hard for its treasures. But we can’t ignore the present. There is a well-known statement from Pirkei Avot that says, “Who is wealthy? One who is happy with their lot.” That sentiment speaks directly to the point I am developing.
The personal perspective is essential. Any appreciation of the current moment must also involve, or rest on, our ability to be satisfied with our own existence. The word “lot” can refer to wealth, destiny or character, so the phrase is rich in potential meanings.
I believe our sages were trying to turn us away from prioritizing material wealth. Being rich and having many physical goods does not make one happy. In fact, wanting more material goods, the basis of consumerism, is seen as a negative attribute. But the value of contentment is satisfaction with one’s own allotment in life.
That element speaks more to one’s natural attributes and one’s heritage – genetic, familial and communal. The intent of the statement, it seems to me, is to warn us to be personally gratified with who we are. It’s about our destiny in some ways, but more importantly, it’s about our character, and the values and qualities we live by.
It’s not about over-confidence, nor a signal for arrogance, to be sure.
These sentiments were brought home to me at my grandson’s bar mitzvah. The rabbi used this aphorism to explain to Avi that he should understand and appreciate his rich birthright and his wonderful character. It was an ego boost of the best sort – an attempt to give confidence to a young Jew at precisely the right instant, for precisely the right reasons.
It was also a wonderful praise for the present moment. Live for now. Be content. That is happiness. Don’t look to others’ riches. Learn to appreciate your own – those of your own personality, your family, your community and your people.
With that kind of view, we can see how very rich – read: blessed – we truly are.
